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		<title>We Are All Addicts</title>
		<link>http://johncheatham.com/2011/11/12/we-are-all-addicts/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Nov 2011 01:23:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[So I&#8217;ve been listening to the CCEF podcast recently and heard Elliot Greene from Redeemer Theological Seminary speak. One thing he said specifically made me think. He said we&#8217;re all addicts. That confused me at first but then I thought about it. Some are addicted to drugs, alcohol, or other physical substances. Others are addicted <a href='http://johncheatham.com/2011/11/12/we-are-all-addicts/' class='excerpt-more'>[...]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So I&#8217;ve been listening to the <a href="http://www.ccef.org/posts/podcast_2">CCEF podcast</a> recently and <a href="http://www.ccef.org/manipulation-subtle-addiction">heard Elliot Greene</a> from Redeemer Theological Seminary speak. One thing he said specifically made me think. He said we&#8217;re all addicts. That confused me at first but then I thought about it. Some are addicted to drugs, alcohol, or other physical substances. Others are addicted to getting their way, pleasing others, or pleasing themselves. Still others are addicted to controlling every situation around them, holiday traditions, or even sitting down when they get home from work. I would go so far as to say that addictions are universal. You know why? We were created for addiction. However, it was to be addicted to the Creator. That was the design. All that fell apart in Genesis 3 when man chose to disobey God and therefore sin. What can we learn from all this? Instead of the addiction I mentioned about (or feel free to insert your own), our addiction should be for our Creator. That cannot happen without a heart that has been regenerated and brought back to life by God. Otherwise we&#8217;re all just dead in our addictions.</p>
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		<title>Christ Family Church</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Feb 2011 14:18:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[So we&#8217;re getting involved in a church here in Dahlonega named Christ Family Church. It&#8217;s quite phenomenal to find a church we can call home after coming back to Georgia. While we attended some nice ones in Lawrenceville, one of them was too focused on tradition and the other was too focused on its members <a href='http://johncheatham.com/2011/02/16/christ-family-church/' class='excerpt-more'>[...]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So we&#8217;re getting involved in a church here in Dahlonega named <a href="http://christfamilychurchnga.org">Christ Family Church</a>. It&#8217;s quite phenomenal to find a church we can call home after coming back to Georgia. While we attended some nice ones in Lawrenceville, one of them was too focused on tradition and the other was too focused on its members (although it was trying to change that and become more missional). In Dahlonega, CFC is solidly biblical and missional. Just because they&#8217;re so concise, here are the <a href="http://christfamilychurchnga.org/vision-and-distinctives/">vision and distinctions</a> of the church:<span id="more-346"></span></p>
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<h3>Missional</h3>
<p>We focus our times together on building up believers and encouraging one another to take the Good News of salvation into the community, region, and world.</p>
<h3>Family-Integrated</h3>
<p>We place high value on the health of families, and our corporate meetings are multi- generational in that children remain together with families in the meetings to allow and encourage families to function and grow together.</p>
<h3>Covenant Membership</h3>
<p>Covenant membership involves all members’ commitment to be subject to one another for the sake of the integrity and spiritual growth of the Church. It is both a solemn and joyful matter—a deep agreement between regenerated believers that welcomes discipline for the sake of the greater good of sanctification.</p>
<h3>Expositional Preaching</h3>
<p>We, in our corporate presentation of Bible texts, will deal exegetically with each passage, taking as our main point for the sermon the main point of the text and attending to each issue presented in that text.</p>
<h3>Reformed Southern Baptist</h3>
<p>God, with absolute sovereignty, accomplishes the salvation of his people by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone, and for the glory of God alone. He uses his people as His means of spreading the gospel of eternal salvation; we, therefore, being Southern Baptists, cooperate with other churches in supporting mission efforts worldwide.</p>
<h3>Plurality of Elders</h3>
<p>Elders are the scripturally mandated positions of leadership in the Church. Biblically qualified leaders are shepherds, guiding the body towards accomplishing congregationally selected goals and adhering to Scriptural values; thus, the church is led by the Holy Spirit and guided by multiple elders.</p>
<h3>Gospel-Centered Counseling</h3>
<p>We acknowledge the Bible as the chief authority on healthy, fulfilled living. As such, pastoral counseling is first and foremost the application of Biblical truth to guide us through our lives.</p></blockquote>
<p>Those who know me or have read old posts in this blog know that many of those topics have been addressed in this blog, especially the last one.</p>
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		<title>Edifying Language</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Dec 2008 23:43:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Paul Tripp, author of War of Words and Instruments in the Redeemer&#8217;s Hands, has some interesting comments on language. Warning: some words in this may be offensive.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.paultrippministries.org/">Paul Tripp</a>, author of <strong>War of Words</strong> and <strong>Instruments in the Redeemer&#8217;s Hands</strong>, has some interesting comments on language. Warning: some words in this may be offensive.</p>
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		<title>What is Counseling?</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:57:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Since I am pursuing a Master of Divinity with Biblical Counseling, I figured I should write on counseling a little. Almost everyone goes to counselors / psychologists / psychiatrists now days. Why is this? Why do people go to these particular people with their problems? Because they tell us that they can fix us. Why <a href='http://johncheatham.com/2008/11/25/what-is-counseling/' class='excerpt-more'>[...]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Since I am pursuing a Master of Divinity with Biblical Counseling, I figured I should write on counseling a little. Almost everyone goes to counselors / psychologists / psychiatrists now days. Why is this? Why do people go to these particular people with their problems? Because they tell us that they can fix us. Why don&#8217;t people take their problems to churches? Because when they do, many times the pastors themselves send them to these self-proclaimed specialists. Shouldn&#8217;t the pastors provide counsel from the Bible, instead of trusting in man-made advice that doesn&#8217;t even take into account the dichotomy (inner man and outer man) or trichotomy (body, soul, and spirit) of man and is instead anthropologically monistic. If all there is to man is man, and no spiritual side, then psychotherapy is fine. But, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. (II Corinthians 5:17) Just remember, all Scripture is God-breathed. (II Timothy 3:16-17)</p>
<p>You may think I&#8217;m crazy writing about how pastors should be counseling their people, since I&#8217;m majoring in counseling. Actually, I write this precisely for this reason. Counseling, when done in a biblical context, takes place in the local church and in a body of believers &#8211; it is not a separate entity. It employs accountability in the body and will utilize church discipline in the case of unrepentance.</p>
<p>Let me flesh this out a bit. Here&#8217;s how I see counseling operating within the context of the local body: 90% of the counseling is done as one-another ministry. If you have something with which you need help, you first go to your brother or sister (same sex) in Christ, and they will help you from the God&#8217;s Word. 90% of counseling would end there, as we have the Bible from which to counsel.</p>
<p>If there is a problem that seems too large for one-another ministry, the &#8220;another&#8221; should bring in an elder in the church. If the elder feels unqualified for a certain problem, they should bring in a counselor trained in that specific problem &#8211; from a biblical perspective. This progression is similar to church discipline. We are called to help one another and that is the method I proclaim. As 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says: &#8220;And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle (or <em>disorderly</em>, or <em>undisciplined</em>), encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>Response to Me-Gospel</title>
		<link>http://johncheatham.com/2008/11/21/response-to-me-gospel/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:36:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Life is not about us. Its not about you, me, or anyone else. Its about God&#8217;s glory. This is a hard lesson to learn in our humanistic western society. This world does not revolve around you or me and especially not because you or me. It does, no the other hand, revolve because of God. <a href='http://johncheatham.com/2008/11/21/response-to-me-gospel/' class='excerpt-more'>[...]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Life is not about us. Its not about you, me, or anyone else. Its about God&#8217;s glory. This is a hard lesson to learn in our humanistic western society. This world does not revolve around you or me and especially not because you or me. It does, no the other hand, revolve because of God. The world was created by Him, for Him, and for His glory. This works contradictory to our &#8220;12 Step&#8221; society. &#8220;7 Steps to a Better Life&#8221;, &#8220;3 Points for the Best Marriage&#8221;, and all these other programs we&#8217;ve created and slapped a few out of context Bible verses on them will not lead you to the purpose of life. The purpose of life is none other than the glory of God, and we don&#8217;t do that in and of ourselves. The Holy Spirit living inside of us provides the ability for us dead men to walk to God&#8217;s glory. &#8220;If then you have been raised up with Christ, set your mind on the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on the things above, not the things on earth, for you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.&#8221; Colossians 3:1-3</p>
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		<title>Response to Self-Esteem</title>
		<link>http://johncheatham.com/2008/11/19/response-to-self-esteem/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Nov 2008 05:28:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Why should we have self-esteem? There is no Biblical foundation for this. One could argue that we are fearfully and wonderfully made, (Psalm 139:14) but, in context (Psalm 139), is that really talking about self-esteem? Or is it focused more on God&#8217;s transcendent power as Creator and Sustainer? I think more fitting would be the <a href='http://johncheatham.com/2008/11/19/response-to-self-esteem/' class='excerpt-more'>[...]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Why should we have self-esteem? There is no Biblical foundation for this. One could argue that we are fearfully and wonderfully made, (Psalm 139:14) but, in context (Psalm 139), is that really talking about self-esteem? Or is it focused more on God&#8217;s transcendent power as Creator and Sustainer? I think more fitting would be the verse that states our righteousness is as filthy rags (Isaiah 64:6). There is nothing in and of ourselves that is worthy of true esteem unless Christ is in us. And even if He is, why would we esteem ourselves? We can instead esteem Him and recognize His value. This could be referred to as &#8220;God-esteem.&#8221; This seems to be a Biblical response to &#8220;man/self-esteem&#8221; which is so prevalent in our western culture today.</p>
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